You're a modern man, perhaps even in your twenties or thirties like us here at Modern Man Outfitters, so as our diaries indicate another busy summer of weddings it's likely your diaries do too. So we thought what better a time to write a really helpful and informative guide for you.
Now firstly this wedding post isn’t necessarily designed for the groom, as there are far superior blogs out there. No, instead we’re writing this blog for you, the attendee of a wedding or weddings this summer. We’re doing this because we really believe a wedding shouldn’t just be seen as ‘a big day’ for the bride and groom, but by every modern man in attendance. Whether you show up with the love of your life, a new fling, with the hopes of meeting someone there, or even to enjoy a good party with your boys, a wedding is something to look forward to. So we’re here to make sure you’re doing weddings right in 2017.
So in this blog, we’ll cover a few topics; a dress code guide, to rent or buy your tux/suit, why weddings aren't just great for the bride and groom but great for you, and finally our top 5 must-have wedding weekend accessories for weddings away from home this summer.
In today's age, there really is a great deal of dress codes from which a bride and groom can choose from. In this section we’ll outline the likely dress codes you could run into, and whether you should invest or rent the suit to match when on a budget.
STRICT & SEMI STRICT DRESS CODES
With these more traditional attires, as a man, you’re expected to spend some time making sure you meet the dress code. Nothing can lose you favour with a bride quicker than dressing inappropriately for her big day - so don’t be that guy.
Now this category can range from expensive tuxedos to very smart suits, so pay careful attention to what the invitation is asking, and when in doubt, ask the groom what is expected.
1.) White Tie
Often seen as the most formal and strictest dress code, it's also somethings called ‘full evening dress’. It is usually chosen for very formal evening weddings usually beginning in the early evening after 6pm.
What to wear: a tuxedo with tails (not a normal tuxedo). A formal white shirt, a white vest along with a white bow tie and white pocket square. Pair it all with highly polished black dress shoes, and complete the look with white or gray gloves.
2.) Black Tie
You guessed it, black tie means black tie gentlemen. This dress code is the second most formal, and also the more frequently chosen option for formal weddings. Like white tie, it's likely a black tie dress code will be for a formal evening wedding.
What to wear: The traditional black tie variation is typically a plain black bow tie and depending on the season either a full traditional black tuxedo or in the summer if preferred a white dinner jacket and black tuxedo trousers. Again go with a crisp white pocket square, this time with a black cummerbund or vest, a black leather watch, a formal white shirt, and finally highly polished black leather dress shoes.
3.) Formal, Black Tie Optional, Cocktail
Get any of these on the invitation and you should know that you have a bit more wiggle room if you don't want to go with the smart tuxedo option. But remember, if you're there to impress - always go with the tux and get your best Bond lines ready. Regarding the times of the day, these can vary but again tend to be late afternoon evening.
What to wear: the black tux as outlined in ‘Black tie’. Or if you want to make an investment into another work suit, go with a formal dark suit, a smart white shirt, with a conservative non-patterned tie or bow tie. For leatherwear, go with black for your belt watch and dress shoes - brown and tan are slightly more informal.
CASUAL DRESS CODES
These weddings tend to be a lot less serious, and more about the celebration. As such the locations can vary as can the times of day, so pay close attention to the invitation.
1.) Semiformal, dressy casual, jacket & tie,
For these, you definitely have more freedom as to how smart you dress. Naturally, if it's a casual wedding choosing a tuxedo may make you stand out in a bad way, so unless you’re bold and know you can shoulder it, instead of dressing up, dress more vibrantly as we shall now explain.
What to wear: On the smarter end of the spectrum; go with smart lighter coloured suits such as lighter greys and summer pastel colours such as blue. Pair these with bolder more vibrant tie/ bow tie combinations and a crisp white dress shirt and you can't go wrong. Choose your leather accessories carefully, make sure they work with the suit colour as well as all coordinate; go black, tan or brown, don’t mix and match.
On the more casual end of the spectrum, go with smart white, beige, navy blue, or even green chino’s, paired with a white button-down shirt and a jacket. The jacket's colour should vary depending on the time of year and location. think lighter colours for spring and summer weddings that are nearer to the ocean or forest. Go with darker colours for autumn and winter weddings that are nearer to the city. Don’t be afraid of vibrant bow tie’s gentlemen, the typical association of bow ties and formality in recent years has fallen away, and it's now seen to be much more fashionable at such events over a traditional tie. Check out our range of vibrant bow ties here. We do urge you to be bold and throw some colour at your outfit, but when in doubt, dress smarter with a suit and a more conservative tie.
To buy or rent your tux or suit?
Tuxedo’s: When it comes to tuxedos our advice for you as a young modern man depending on your budget is to ideally invest in one for the long run. Make sure it fits your body shape really well and is made of quality materials. However if your budget cannot stretch for a good quality, well-fitting tuxedo, don’t cheap out on a poorly fitting budget tux, instead rent one. There is no shame in renting gentlemen, it's vital to wear something that fits you really well and really gives you the wow factor, especially if you want maximum suave to chat up that gorgeous girl or guy over at the bar.
Smart Suits: When it comes to this dress code where dark colours such as black, gray or navy blue is expected, these are the times you should really deliberate over investing instead of renting. Even if you’re on a budget and the cost wouldn't easily be absorbed, at least think it over. A proper suit isn't just a wedding expense, you can also pass it off as a work expense to. Every modern man needs to out dress his colleagues in today's corporate world, and buying a proper well fitting suit goes a long way in doing this. We recommend investing in a three-piece suit, even if you don't plan on wearing the waistcoat for the wedding, it's always good to have a three piece option for work events.
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Why weddings are great - not only for the Bride & Groom
All weddings are celebrations of love and the special bond between two people, however going to a wedding can be great for you too. Weddings are often extravagant events with fantastic food, great drinks and most importantly great people to share it all with, so it's important to embrace and enjoy them. Here are our top three reasons why you should be excited about a wedding this summer:
1.) RECOUNTING MEMORIES AND MAKING NEW ONES
Weddings are wonderful events that bring people back together all in one place. It's always great to have a good old fashioned drink with the people that matter to you, regardless of how long it's been. It should be no surprise to you then, that after a few of your favourite drinks it’s only a matter of time before the stories from your shared past bubble to the surface. Recounting such anecdotes is a great way to bring stale relationships back to life. When it comes to family members you haven't seen for an age, recounting old memories like this works really rather well, especially when you don't know what else to say. Another aspect of weddings is just the simple act of being at one will create new and laughable memories, perfect to take away and look back at during the next one. You may even find yourself making plans to meet up again in the near future.
A little side note - we’ve all got those ‘man I can’t believe I did that’ moments, just be sure to embarrass them and find it in yourself to indeed laugh at yourself.
2.) TALKING TO THAT GORGEOUS GIRL OR GUY
Perhaps you have lines coming out of your ears, or maybe you have no idea at all, let's face it, often the hardest part about starting up a conversation with someone you find attractive is indeed those first few words. Being at a wedding gives you a guaranteed opening line that truly is sincere and not at all corny. Go with something along the lines of “so how do you know the bride and groom?” and you’ll be off to a flying start in no time. If you are indeed going to a wedding alone, or with friends, go there to enjoy yourself and have fun. If you happen to meet someone along the way don't be shy, be a modern man and say hello, who knows what’ll happen.
3.) RESET & RE-EVALUATE YOURSELF
You’ll soon find after university or college that you quite quickly settle into a routine of career and weekends, and after a while, it can become predictable and possibly mundane. As with all major life events such as birthdays, graduations, and sadly deaths, you will likely spend some time thinking about where you are in life, and where you want to go with it. Weddings are another great occasion to do this. We actually think because of their extravagance and the opportunity for a good laugh, that they're the best possible occasion for these 'life re-evaluation moments'. Perhaps you want to change up your career, ask that girl for her hand in marriage, or even just to commit to trying new things, weddings force you to think, so again embrace that, and make something good happen for yourself because of it.
What to pack for a wedding weekend away this summer
Because it's a very personal thing, instead of trying to curate outfit accessories we thought instead to take a different approach. Instead we are bringing you our top 5 products to take and travel with for a wedding away. We thought we'd do this also because Modern Man Outfitters isn't just your standard men's accessories store selling only ties bow ties and not a lot else. We carry a far-reaching collection of men's accessories, and we also know that these five products will be ones you are going to want to buy.
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So there we have it, a post addressing the wonders of weddings for the modern man. What do you think our blog post? Feel free to share with your fellow dapper chaps, and we’d also love to hear from you in the comments bellow!
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